I'm sitting here and it feels a little surreal to finally tell this story after all these years. Who am I? What do I do? And why should you even listen to me?
Let me start from the beginning.
From the Saarland Around the World
I'm Jonas Alexander Grodhues. Born and raised in the Saarland, but the last 11 years? I've spent them traveling the world. As a digital nomad.
Australia. Bali. Thailand. Mexico. Panama. Colombia. Peru.
I worked in mines in Western Australia. Port Hedland, a tiny town, in a region where 95% of Australia still hasn't even been mapped. Hard work. Gold, silver, rare earths. But I was young, German, and willing to work hard.
With that money I headed to Southeast Asia, Bali and Thailand, where the cost of living is lower and I could start building my business. Around 2013, 2014. On the beach. First YouTube videos. E-books. Video courses. And then the first questions started coming in. Almost all from women. Almost all about the same thing.
"He's not answering anymore. What can I do?"
The Question That Changed Everything
Back in 2015 or 2016 there was a Facebook giveaway from a big beauty influencer. The question with the most likes wins. You know which question pulled in 20,000 to 30,000 likes?
To this day that's my highest-clicking headline on every platform.
And you know what? Most people say in public: "Who even wants their ex back? Reheated leftovers never taste as good."
But at 2 a.m.? Quietly, secretly, when no one's watching? That's exactly the reason most of them come to me.
No Formal Training,
but 12 Years in the Field
I never went to college. No psychology degree. No therapy training. But I got into personal development very early on.
I learned NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming). I'm a certified hypnotist here in Germany. I used to do stage and party hypnosis at weddings as a hobby. And then I just did the work. I saved my own relationships. More than once. In situations where other people would have said: this is hopeless.
Since 2018 I've easily spoken with 3,000 to 5,000 people from across the German-speaking world. Discovery calls. Most of them myself. I have a rare, unfiltered view of what's really going on out there:
"Winning at work. Drama in love."
Women who have everything under control professionally. Doctors. IT executives. Founders.
The Card Game Story
I once coached the former head accountant of one of the three largest insurance groups in Switzerland. 55 years old. 30 years focused on her career. Men? Completely set aside. She'd had a riding accident and had been living off her pension on an island in southern Europe ever since. And she paid me $6,000 to fly out and stay with her for a week.
The situation looked hopeless. He had blocked her on every channel. 3 months of no contact. I flew out to her. Went through her apartment (with permission). In one drawer: a card game, still sealed in its original packaging, "Learn Spanish."
I asked: "Where did you get this?"
She said, in a dismissive tone: "Oh, he gave me that for Christmas. Useless to me."
Bingo. Just from the way she said it, I knew instantly: she doesn't respect him. How can she expect respect, love, and attraction from him when she can't even speak about him with respect?
We took a photo. Unwrapped the card game. Sent him a message:
"Hey [Name], thank you so much again for this wonderful card game. I only just got around to playing it with a friend, and I really feel like it's improved my Spanish. How are you?"
For the very first time, HE called HER.
She was at the beach with me. Back at the hotel: three missed calls from him.
Two Ways Back,
only one truly works
For most women, getting an ex back is like a wake-up call. An invitation to finally ask: why did my partner lose his attraction to me? Did I lose myself?
There are basically two ways to go about it.
The Classic Ex-Back Path
- Write a goodbye message
- At least 3 weeks of no contact
- Use that time for YOU
- Reopen contact with the right strategies
- The "second first date," without immediately asking where it's going
It works, but only if you truly let go. Not just pretend to.
The Personalized Path
Sometimes the solution is simpler. Sometimes you don't need any no-contact phase at all.
Sometimes it's enough to understand what's going on in his head, not what he says, but what he actually means.
That's exactly what I'm here for.
What Sets Me Apart From Other Coaches
In discovery calls I hear the same thing over and over about what happens in other coaching programs:
- Assistant coaches who are no better than ChatGPT
- Cookie-cutter answers that ignore your specific situation
- Too little personal contact with the head coach
With me:
- I work with every single person myself
- Every situation is analyzed individually
- No assistants, just me
- I can read your messages in 5 minutes and then talk for 2 hours about what went wrong and when
The Slashed Tires Story
From my own three-year on-again, off-again relationship, I know what losing control feels like. But some clients come to me in situations I've never lived through myself.
I had a client who slashed her ex's tires. She was jealous. He had ended things. She completely lost it.
On paper: absolutely hopeless.
Today? She's learned to bring real discipline to the table. To regulate her nervous system. To understand her impulses without blindly following them.
That's my point: your situation isn't too complicated. Not too hopeless. I've seen far crazier cases.
What I Do Today,
and why Retreats are my future
I still coach. But I'd rather work with a small handful of people I can truly take care of.
What I love almost even more today? Retreats. Small groups. 10 to 15 elite women. Intense transformation. Not just "getting your ex back," but: who do you really want to be?
Hypnosis. Breathwork. Kundalini activation. Workshops. Egypt, Thailand, Costa Rica. You'll find the next dates on the Retreats page.
When Does It Make Sense
to work with me?
Book coaching if:
- You're going through a fresh breakup
- You don't know whether your relationship can still be saved
- You keep making the same mistakes (clinging, fighting, begging)
- You want to understand what's going on in his head, not just what he says
- You're ready to work on yourself, not just learn "tactics"
Book a retreat if:
- You sense it's about more than just "getting your ex back"
- You want to clear blocks you can't clear online
- You're ready for real transformation (not just motivation)
- You want to pair transformation with adventure
"Stop chasing him. Start finding yourself."
That's the only path that truly works.